Accessibility: A A A Colour Black and White

Reducing Parental Conflict Training

The information on this page forms part of your training. Please ensure you read it thoroughly before attending the virtual event.

Welcome to the Reducing Parental Conflict Training. On this page and in the accompanying virtual briefing we will be covering the following objectives:

  • Recognise the effects of parental conflict on children and young people
  • Understand the difference between parental conflict and domestic abuse
  • Identify the stressors that can trigger parental conflict
  • Increase confidence in working with parents to reduce the conflict in their relationship

You should undertake this training as directed by your line manager and be aware of your own well-being. If you are upset by anything in this module you should seek support from your manager or a colleague.

This training runs over two consecutive half days

What is Parental Conflict?

It is normal for two parents to have different ideas, opinions, values, and priorities. Part of being successful in a relationship with another person is being able to use appropriate communication skills, so differences of opinion can be worked out using healthy conflict resolution strategies.

If parents do not communicate effectively with each other, it can result in chronic, unresolved conflict between them. The same patterns of angry confrontations are repeated over and over again with often no resolution or changes taking place.

This conflict can range from yelling, criticising, blaming, put-downs, mocking, sarcasm and ignoring, but poorly managed this can escalate to domestic abuse such as threats of harm, throwing or destroying things, and physical violence such as grabbing, shoving and hitting.

How is Parental Conflict Harmful to Children?

The wish of all children is that their parents do not argue or fight with each other. Unresolved, chronic conflict between parents, whether living together or separated, can have an extremely negative impact on the current and future mental health of their children.

1. Negative Impact on Children’s Mental Health

Research indicates that children are generally very resilient and can usually cope with difficult situations such as separation and divorce. What does damage children is bitter, long-lasting, ongoing conflict between parents, whether the parents live together or not. This can lead to emotional and behavioural problems, anxiety, depression, sleep problems, low self-esteem, and problems at school.

2. Children Feel Unsafe

Parental conflict creates tension, and unpredictability in the family environment that is meant to be safe and secure . Children feel anxious, and frightened. They may worry about their own safety and their parents’ safety even if there has been no actual or threatened violence.

3. Children Worry About Taking Sides

Children worry that they have to take sides in the conflict. They generally want to please both parents but this becomes impossible and creates stress for children. Children become caught in the middle.

4. Children Feel Guilty

Children often believe they are responsible for the fighting that goes on between their parents. This is especially true if children hear arguments related to different parenting styles, school issues, or financial issues related to them.

5. Poor Role-Modelling for Children

Children learn lessons about how to get along with others from how their parents get along with each other. If parents only model unhealthy ways to communicate and resolve problems, most likely that is how their children will communicate and solve problems as they grow up

6. Quality of Parenting Decrease

Parental conflict increases stress on parents, which can result in the decreased use of effective parenting skills over time, with a resulting negative impact on the children.

7. Parent-Child Relationships May Suffer

Children need to be allowed to develop a relationship with both parents regardless of how the parents feel about each other. If a child constantly hears bad things about one parent from another parent, the parent-child relationship of the criticised parent may become damaged.

Reducing Parental Conflict Training

This training explores how to recognise the signs of parental conflict at the early stages. It highlights how to support parents in finding constructive outcomes which are shown to provide positive lessons for children to learn such skills as negotiation and compromise.

Next Steps

To book on the virtual training session click on the date you wish to attend:

13th and 14th April 2021

18th and 19th May 2021

9th and 10th June 2021

13th and 14th July 2021

Please ensure you have registered for training before attempting to book a place. Each individual person requires their own registration – do not book places for other people, they will not be recorded as having attended and will not receive a certificate